One of the constant conversations on this blog is the idea of attraction.I’ve written a ton about it and even have whole posts about it.In other words, God has nothing to say to them on that subject of any consequence or, at least, anything meaningful enough to dissuade them from following their own course of conduct. A person who at once believes in a wise, sovereign and loving God who created them and all things, can also believe simultaneously He should not, cannot or will not inform their thinking or living sexually. If you let the paint mentally dry on the statistic above and the perception about God it reflects for a moment, perhaps my contention of sexual atheism won’t seem so far-fetched.It reminds me of those famous red letters in Luke’s Gospel where Jesus says, “Why do you call me 'Lord, Lord' and do not do what I say? No amount of hand-wringing at the many-headed hydra of the entertainment world or raucous deploring of immoral political philosophies invading our nation can explain this one.But the truth is that I don’t have to, often should not, and frankly sometimes am commanded not to act on that attraction. Things like past sexual events in my life, what I believe about myself and God, looking at porn or reading “romance” novels, how I’m feeling that day, or even how much I’ve had to drink can influence my attraction to someone. If I am attracted to someone that I know I need to not pursue, then I can either feed that or not.If I start to respond to it, or put myself in the position where the attraction will grow, then I’m setting myself up.You may not be able to help what you feel, but you can for sure help what you do with it. I need to run both attraction and acting on it (or not acting) through the lens of my walk with Jesus.Again, attraction and acting on attraction are two completely different things. Some people get frustrated because not enough people find them attractive.
This is even true, if I may be so bold, for people who would be attracted to the same sex – once or always. I see someone or meet someone and I’m attracted, or I’m not. I’m for sure attracted, but I don’t have to act on it.In a recent study conducted by Christian Mingle.com, Christian singles between the ages of 18 to 59 were asked, “Would you have sex before marriage? Sixty-three percent of the single Christian respondents indicated yes.