No dating until after college

I am 30 years old, relatively successful in my current career track, intelligent, attractive, easy to talk to, and very friendly. None of my girl friends believe me when I inform them of this fact. I’ve asked them when we’re out with guys if I’m giving off some sort of lesbian or “don’t come near me! I’m very good friends now with someone whom I would love to date, but I’m afraid I’ve already fallen into the “friend zone” with him.

I seem to be able to get along with absolutely everybody and make others feel at ease. I have tried online dating too, by the way, and that didn’t go well.

Clearly, you didn’t even go on a first date with anyone, so what are you basing your critique on?

Did you strike up an email correspondence with anyone? Were you proactive in reaching out to those people or did you passively wait to be contacted?

You don't see a lot of decently attractive single girls.), I would get way too excited and get my hopes up and be so disappointed when I got rejected. Anyway, all I can say, the emotional and physical stuff, holding hands, sex, making out, flirting, etc, it just comes naturally, we are animals after all.

If you like who you are and carry yourself that way, you should have no problems, esp since I've seen your pictures.

You need to get out there like Ruth said, I sure as hell didn't met any women sitting at home hoping they'd come knock on my door.


It’s great that you think you’re relatively successful, intelligent, attractive, easy to talk to, and very friendly, but why on earth haven’t you extended some of that confidence and positive thinking toward your love life?Either way, one thing’s clear: you’d benefit from therapy (and a little tough love from a few close friends) much more than you would a trip to a convent.


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