As you move past that 17 to 23 day sweet spot and continue talking just online, she says, you might begin to envision someone as friendlier, say, or as having a deeper voice.
Filling in those gaps with your imagination can later lead to disappointment, Sumner says.
The Ok Cupid study also found that first messages with "haha" and "lol" had above-average reply rates, 45 percent and 41 percent, respectively.
Don't message for too long before meeting up in person, researchers say, or you'll risk being disappointed when you do. Keep your messages short, and also make sure that the amount of time you talk online before meeting in person is somewhat brief.
If you're tempted to lie, ask yourself how obvious you think your lie would be if you met someone in person.
(And, as an added bonus, on Ok Cupid, being active and reaching out to people means you'll be shown more to other users.) Research seems to support this strategy.And there's a good chance that many of them are fibbing.In his book Ok Cupid founder Christian Rudder says that men's claimed height Ok Cupid and claimed heights from US Census data are markedly different.Anything shorter than 17 days, and feelings of uncertainty might do Granted, the study didn't take into account other reasons those relationships might have ended poorly.
While the results are indicative of a larger trend, how long you talk online isn't the only predictor of how successful your relationship might be.Putting yourself out there can result in a payoff, experts say, particularly for women.